"Let's go kayaking this weekend."
Said the wife. She loves to plan.
I say, "OK — if it doesn't rain."
"There ya go," she says, "Being negative."
And she's probably right. Seems like I'm always tossing a bit of shade across her sunshine.
You probably know bubbly, positive people. They like to say, "Hey, the glass is not half empty. It's half full.” OK, but I wonder about what's in the glass. It all comes down to how you look at things.
Listen. I believe in hope. I think people are kind and generous and good. Until they are not.
Ahhh, there it is. Casting doubt. Because I also think people have a dark side. And often the good person and the bad person are in the same person.
So why am I a doubter? Aways questioning. Maybe because of my career and what I'd call a learned philosophy. That philosophy being: The best way to prepare is to expect the worst.
It's like defensive driving. Expect that other driver to blow through the red light. I never trust a turn signal. That's my philosophy.
And as a reporter I learned there is more than one side to a story. And here's a twist: When others are chewing apart someone for something they said or did, I look for the positive.
(That guy who blew the red light may be rushing to an emergency room where a loved one is hurt badly.)
Bottom line: I can’t help it. It’s how my brain works.
Which is why I am blessed with a wife who pulls me into her sunshine.
And makes plans … that I end up enjoying.
If it doesn’t rain.
I’m Lonny Cain … and that’s my Perspective.